The Painting Was Never Supposed to Be Neat

In the workshop of life, you get a full palette of colors. Some are probably more abundant than others. The supply of every color keeps changing with the seasons of life.

The brush is in your hand, and so is the choice which color to use, and how much.

While painting on the canvas, you don’t worry about how much color will be left. You draw and use colors based on your imagination, your needs, envisioning what would make the final work beautiful.

If you were to start saving or overusing a color, the painting wouldn’t turn out the way you expected.

If someone told you or you read somewhere that your painting should have a lot of yellow, using it might not feel true to you.

And sometimes, just by looking at someone else’s painting, you might feel inspired to add more brown, which ends up adding a kind of magic to your own work that you never even expected.

In any case, if your painting is made based on suggestions and thoughts that don’t feel true or honest to you, then even if it looks beautiful, you may not fully connect with it because you compromised its authenticity. Your own imagination. Your own expectations.

Isn’t that how the story of life is?

Worrying about our emotions, our blessings, the resources we’ve been given.

Worrying about what others tell us, how we’re supposed to live, what the final look of our life should be.

What happiness should look like without ever asking ourselves.

And when we go by what others say, or follow the conditioning that life is about perfection, we start worrying about emptying the containers of colors given to us and so we overuse them.

And sometimes the scarcity scares us, and we start saving them because someone told us that using them will take our security away.

Then they remain unutilized.

Unlived.

Hoarding never brought any joy.

And that’s the point.

There is a perfect ratio for this beautiful creation.

You don’t disturb it by worrying about wastage or usage.

But does everyone know what that perfect ratio is?

I doubt it.

Our life is an evolving piece of work.

Based on our circumstances, the mix of colors we use keeps changing. Our imagination of the final look of the canvas keeps changing too.

So what do we do? Should we worry about getting it right from the start?

Probably we can’t.

But what we can do is give it our 100%, make it 100% authentic, 100% ours.

Use what is given to us by choice, not by someone else’s expectations.

Like a painting, life remains fluid.

Ever moving. Ever changing. Ever evolving.

It doesn’t matter how efficient we were in the process of living it with our abilities, blessings, and circumstances.

The point is:

Do we like the final outcome of it?

Do we feel ourselves in it?

Nobody can tell me if my painting should have more green or yellow.

Nor should I worry about the leftover orange.

I’ll paint what my heart says.

Even if it’s just black and white.

Comments

9 responses to “The Painting Was Never Supposed to Be Neat”

  1. Bhavesh Avatar
    Bhavesh

    Wow! This is so poetic! I felt I was reading Willam Wordsworth. Such a beautiful analogy you’ve built. And so true too…

    1. Neha Sharma Avatar

      Oh my! Thank you, it means a lot to know my words brought him to mind. My work is no way worth comparing to his. Thank you for appreciating.

  2. Ashutosh Pandey Avatar
    Ashutosh Pandey

    Very well written!

  3. Munmun Singh Nagpal Avatar
    Munmun Singh Nagpal

    Awesome analogy! True that why should someone tell us how the painting should look like. But most often than not, we are not satisfied with our own paintings, busy comparing. What is the goal finally? Is it to have the most beautiful painting in the world? Or to show that we tried our very best and had fun with colours? I resonated with your way of thinking, hope this article reaches out to those who need to read it.

    1. Neha Sharma Avatar

      Thank you! I hope so too.

  4. Mandeep Thakur Avatar
    Mandeep Thakur

    Well written…in context absolutely worthy …
    Just to take it further…how would one be satisfied that mine one is actually the good one …that self doubt, external validation or May be some self devised mechanism to call thee the one must have been after external reflections only ….
    I just seek that how is it possible to actually be satisfied without external validation or is it like living immmune to external factors of influence or is it like living in isolation …
    And in this hyperconnected world is it possible to remain unaffected …
    You have written a very good piece of article …I just put across my thought to give it a little extension or May be an additional perspective or May be nothing at all 😊
    Thanks …more power to you !!

    1. Neha Sharma Avatar

      Thank you, Mandeep, for your thoughts! Wonderful questions. We all have the same doubts, really.

      I actually think just like you said, only in a more optimistic and confident way. To me, self-confidence, internal validation, and self-awareness are like muscles, he more we use them, the stronger they become.

      So, the idea of living a life without external validation doesn’t necessarily mean isolation. It just means being discerning about who you surround yourself with, and whose opinions, if any, you choose to consider. But isolation? Not required.

      Frankly, I’m not finding any real benefit in seeking external validation. It’s clearly not working. I’ll only listen to others if what they’re saying is about kindness or ethics, like whether I’m hurting someone while living my life. But everything else? With practice, we can rise above it.

      Our gurus have displayed this skill, but we’ve often misunderstood it as abandoning the world. But just like someone can be vegan in a carnivorous world, we too can reject external validation and still live fully within society.

      I believe that once we’ve made a logical, ethical, and rational assessment of our value system, we can tune out the noise and listen only to our inner calling, while still engaging with life.

      1. Mandeep Thakur Avatar
        Mandeep Thakur

        Thanks Neha !!

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