The fallacy of attempts

How often have we longed for that spark of motivation? That voice from the sky, a tiny heartbeat in our ears urging us to take the first step?

For many of us, this yearning is all too familiar, a moment suspended between desire and inaction, waiting for something, or someone, to nudge us forward.

As a chronic procrastinator, sometimes for serious reasons, sometimes not, I’ve always been fascinated by what drives people to take action.

What makes some of us leap forward while others remain paralyzed, endlessly circling the starting line?

The Movers and Their Mysteries

Some people seem to glide through life as if they’re on a giant slide, propelled by some invisible force.

Call it discipline, ambition, routine, or perhaps an external push imposed by others. Whatever it is, this internal fire, their ability to take that crucial first step, is enviable.

But what fuels them?

Is it the anxiety of falling behind?

The thrill of belonging to something greater?

Validation from society, family, or themselves?

Perhaps it’s faith in a higher power, an idol, or a purpose beyond comprehension.

Their motivations might spring from the darkest corners of revenge and jealousy or from the purest emotions of love and self-fulfillment.

For some, the drive comes from parental expectations; for others, it’s the inability to sit still.

To one, life means constant striving; to another, it’s about leaving a legacy in this fleeting existence.

For some,it is just about being human which means ‘to do’. 

The Strugglers Who Falter

Then there are those who, no matter how inspired, can’t seem to sustain the momentum. They stumble, either before or after the first attempt, always falling short of motivation.

They may have a long list of reasons, but the bottom line remains: when things get tough, they crumble.

For some, life deals an unfair hand, unrelenting challenges that make success, as defined by society, seem unattainable. Their priorities might lie in caring for family, while the world measures success in wealth.

For them, moving slowly is essential to their version of fulfillment, even as the world glorifies the endless chase.

These two kinds of people, those who sprint forward and those who hold back, are, perhaps, just two sides of the same coin.

Their grit may be the same, but their non-negotiables differ, shaped by personal circumstances, values, and priorities.

Beyond the Surface: Motivation and Culture

It’s not just about individual choice; cultures, societies, and communities deeply influence what we value and strive for.

Historically, collective goals have been shaped by the needs of the time, whether survival, economic growth, or social order. These goals trickle down, shaping individual aspirations and defining what we deem “successful.”

But as societies evolve, so too must these common goals. It’s time to move beyond shaming those who choose a different path. In communities where survival is no longer the pressing issue, individuals should be free to set their own definitions of success.

For some, this might mean wealth or career achievements; for others, it might mean the simple joy of being alive, breathing, and existing without the need for constant striving.

The Freedom to Be

Perhaps the ultimate goal is not about doing or achieving, but about being.

To embrace our personal journeys without fear of judgment, to honor our choices even when they don’t align with societal norms.

After all, life’s true value isn’t measured by external benchmarks but by how authentically we live it.

So, whether you’re driven by ambition, propelled by discipline, or simply savoring the bliss of being, know this:

your path is yours alone.

And that is enough.