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Most people don’t refuse new things because they are certain they won’t enjoy them. They refuse because trying requires a brief surrender of certainty, of control, of the version of themselves that already knows how to exist.  New experiences don’t just offer pleasure; they threaten familiarity. And familiarity, even when…

I saw my childhood friend standing on the other side of the road. We were meeting after almost two years. We both started walking towards each other hurriedly. We wanted to hug already. We had missed each other so much. The moment she saw me, she said, “Hey, you’ve become…

If you love someone and you don’t feel an urgency to take care of them, not dramatically, not performatively, but instinctively; then something is missing.  Either you are not truly in love, or you have already taken them for granted. Because love, at least in its living form, does not…

Language is more important than we think. If we cannot speak, express, or label something, we cannot build the quintessential community every human being needs. And I don’t just mean the outer world communities like friendships, families, societies , but an inner world too. The inner world community is the…

Before I delve into today’s super-serious topic, let me share some contemporary sayings: “Heaven probably has a multi-faith cafeteria.” “Coexistence is agreeing that everyone’s god has a different dress code.” “If God wanted only one religion, humans wouldn’t have been given opinions.” “God listens in all languages. Humans argue over…

“He disliked emotion, not because he felt lightly, but because he felt deeply.” John Buchan And I’d like to inform Mr John Buchan, that this ‘he’ has stopped feeling/expressing emotions altogether henceforth.  Because feeling so much and not being able to do anything about it drove him mad. And this…

When Healing Meets the World Again There comes a moment in every healing journey when you must return to life; not as the person who broke down, but as the person who survived. After a long period of healing when you try to get back into society (family, friends, community,…

“He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.” Lao Tzu Scarcity breeds two fears: the fear of never having abundance again and the fear of losing what little you already have. There is a Taoist saying, “He who hoards much, loses much”—be it worry or money, I…

One of the most interesting things about humans is how much we like being emotional, reliving feelings and memories. We can’t generalize that we all want to relive the same emotions, but yes we are addicted to emotions and feelings. Some of us crave the dopamine rush, maybe that’s why…

I am reminded of a quote by Booth Tarkington as I write this essay: “Cherish all your happy moments; they make a fine cushion for old age.” Mr. Tarkington and I have probably understood the miracle of a cushion in our lives. A cushion is something you need when you…

A very interesting time to be alive. We’ve discussed it often, practiced it daily! Removing toxic people from our lives, like garbage, never looking back. Even though it never feels like garbage, it feels like taking a knife out of your wounds with your own bare hands. It might feel…

ChatGPT (and similar LLMs) proves something simple yet profound. It shows us that validation, encouragement, and understanding matter deeply to us as human beings. Despite knowing it’s an AI, a machine, not a “sane human” talking, we still believe its kind words. We want to hear praise, to have our…

We often think the opposite of pain is happiness. But what if it’s not? Is it the ability to get bored easily?  What if the true opposite of pain is indifference, powering through, the inability to get overwhemled easily?  People in perennial pain (because of a traumatic/difficult life), when a…

Behold this image! A surgeon after performing a 10 hour surgery, comes out of the operation theatre. He takes a sigh. Things are still critical. But he doesn’t give these expressions when he is in the operation theatre, where everyone is looking at him for his work and prowess. He…

Jealousy walks into our lives quietly, like an uninvited guest. It doesn’t shout at first. It lingers in the corner, watching, comparing, whispering that someone else has what we don’t. As children, it may start with toys or attention; as adults, it shifts to success, love, or recognition. Yet the…

Kids don’t become healthy adults naturally. Kids raised in a healthy way even by unhealthy parents become healthy adults. Healthy parents without proper guidance will raise unhealthy kids. More than intention, strategy to raise a child in a healthy age appropriate manner matters more. Some pointers on how to raise…

As an adult with a family, if your version of devotion of parents is to follow their life to the T, not changing your lifestyle or locations, mimicking their (unhealthy) life, routine, financial and social choices etc. and expecting your family to do so too, then this stream of thought…

What made me wonder? I watched a movie with Daniel Day Lewis, ‘Phantom thread’. The phrase in itself means, one keeps sewing even when the actual thread has finished, with phantom thread. The machine keeps running on an invisible thread. Hence the story possibly reflects ghosts of past relationships and…

A law of nature (1⇔1), foretold by Uncle Newton, action is equal to reaction, you get what you give. Never thought physics class was actually a sociology class too. When it comes to understanding how the world works, those who have mastered their quid pro quo muscle, the connoisseurs of…

There’s an entire generation walking around confused, burned out, emotionally stunted or overburdened. It is not because they failed, but because they were never taught how to live. Millennials and their parents inherited silent rules, unspoken traumas, and outdated ideologies disguised as wisdom. Somewhere between survival and image, we forgot…